New branch in Binyamina!
Anchor of Hope Counseling Center is pleased to announce that we are opening a branch in Binyamina. We are very grateful to have Ruth Azuz as our managing counselor at…
Anchor of Hope Counseling Center is pleased to announce that we are opening a branch in Binyamina. We are very grateful to have Ruth Azuz as our managing counselor at…
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I always like those animal rescue video clips where a neglected dog, covered with sores and starving is picked up, fed, healed, and the next scene is a wildly happy animal with a shiny coat running after a Frisbee. If this is what love and attention can do for a pet, what can God do for the suffering soul? The Lord promises us in Psalm 23 that He who is shepherding our souls. Each soul is unique and in a very individualize process. He sees what we need at any given time. Our souls are alive, in process and subject to the bruises of life. He promises to continually restore our souls. The Hebrew word for ‘restores’ has its roots in the verb ‘to return’. It is He who imparts the grace to repent, receive comfort, and change direction. So what does soul restoration entail? Believe you are blessedIt begins with believing you are beloved, blessed, befriended and highly esteemed. In other words, you are under grace, not the law. Believers can fall into the trap of thinking they have to be perfect to please God or always perform at peak. But as author Brennan Manning declares, “God loves us as we are, not as we would like to be’. Unearth buried emotionsAnother element of soul restoration is facing buried emotions and allowing the Lord to penetrate deeply into the hidden caves of the heart. The emotions we bury alive can overwhelm us when triggered, and this is where addictions is born. If we allow the foe of injustice, rejection or humiliation to surface and face it, then real forgiveness and healing can begin. Like David before Goliath, you come in the name of the Living God. Sharing these painful places with God and a safe friend in prayer is a wonderful way to fell this giant. Unmask the liesSoul renewal is becoming aware of the misbeliefs we learned in childhood such as ‘Everyone must like me so I can feel good about myself”. Or “I only have value if I work so hard I burn-out”. Or “Nothing I do will matter anyway”. These are lies that weigh us down. These need to be challenged. What is the evidence that we will “always’ fail. Do these thoughts line up with scripture? Do they produce a sense of well-being? Rebuild the ruin wallsAs the Lord promises to rebuild the ancient ruins of Jerusalem, so it is with our devastated souls. And if you go through the process of allowing Him to heal both heart and mind, you will be equipped to be a “Repairer of Broken Walls” in someone else’s life. (Isaiah 58:12). Partner with usWe welcome your partnering with us at Anchor of Hope.Join us in His mission to mend the broken-hearted in Israel" Donate via…
Several years ago Elvis Presley belted out this song: It’s one for the moneyTwo for the showThree to get readyAnd go cat go.But don’t you step on my blue suede shoesYou can do anything but lay off of my blue suede shoes. Did you know everybody has at least one pair of emotional “blue suede shoes”? You’ll know when someone is stepping on them, because you’ll usually over react. These are your emotional trigger points. They get set off when a painful memory or an unmet need is touched upon. Research tells us that except for universal stressors like war or natural disaster, it is our perception of an experience that determines our mood, feelings and therefore our responses. Even Elvis knew that: Well, you can knock me downStep in my faceSlander my nameAll over the placeDo anything that you want to doBut uh-uh, honeyLay off of my shoesDon’t you step on my blue suede shoesWell, you can do anythingBut stay off of my blue suede shoes Knocked down! Slandered! Stepped on! None of these things bothered him. They weren’t his sensitivity points. This means that what can deeply affect you may not touch another person at all. It may not bother you when a close friend receives an invitation to a wedding and you do not, even though you both know the bride approximately the same amount of time. Someone else might experience this as a painful rejection. And why they do so is often connected to a root of pain, which has never been addressed. Let’s look at the example of Ruth and Naomi. They faced the same series of events, famine and the death of their husbands. Yet Ruth did not become bitter like her mother-in-law. She adjusted to the reality of her situation. What was Ruth’s perception? Maybe, she didn’t feel entitled to a life without sorrow? Perhaps the love of God so filled her heart that she trusted in frightful circumstance? Or is it that she didn’t perceive herself as a victim, so she was able to go forward. All this made her resilient. Take the case of Jonathan and Saul and their relationship with David. Jonathan could have been angry because he was the heir to the throne, but David was chosen for that role. Yet, Jonathan became David’s best friend. Contrast Saul ‘s reaction as he perceived David through the lens of jealousy and control. What was he telling himself as the Hebrew women sang David’s praise? Did the inner voice of rejection poison his mind? Was David ‘s success a trigger for Saul’s remembered failure as he lost the kingship through disobedience? And most of all, Yeshua (Jesus) who said “Father, forgive them they know not what they do” while being nailed to a cross. (Luke23:34). Next time your feel trod on, and you’re caught in what I call ‘the vortex’, a place of replaying the same conversation over and over with an angry or hurt rush of emotion, try uncovering the lie holding you captive. What wound is pressed on? Rejection? Loss of control? Injustice? And how would you like to perceive this experience? Write on one side of a piece of paper how you perceive the situation. Ask the Lord, “Am I believing a lie about myself like “I’m unworthy” or “unlovable” Then pray and invite God’s perspective. Ask Him, “What is your truth in these circumstances?” This is life-changing prayer. It gives Yeshua a gateway to enter deeply into your mind and heart. What does Scripture say about your true identity and place of rest? As you open your heart to restoration, forgiveness and repentance once again, Yeshua calls you ‘overcomer’, not ‘failure’. This is an opportunity to know yourself and God better. If you understand your triggers they begin to lose power. You can identify them as your personal pitfalls, and handle them with grace as you receive healing. Rabbi Eliezer Berkowitz in his book With God in Hell: Judaism in the Ghettos and Death Camp[1] describes his experience in the Holocaust. Berkowitz realized that even the most humiliating treatment, which was itself designed to strip people of their humanity, could not determine his worth. He states that he and other observant Jews in the concentration camp determined that it was their role to guard the Imago Dei, the image of God within them. This meant if they had to get up at 4am to work, they got up at 3am to pray. If they were thrown a scrap of moldy bread, they blessed it. For Berkovitz, the Holocaust was a spiritual confrontation against pure evil. Those who followed Jewish observances, even in the camps performed a sacred service to God. By doing so, they guarded the divine image in mankind by facing unimaginable suffering and relentless degradation while keeping their faith. In the midst of it all, they had fellowship with God. Above all remember this, the deepest part of you belongs to the Lord, and nothing can take away that belonging. Nothing can separate you from the love of God. (Romans 8:38-3) Partner with usWe welcome your partnering with us at Anchor of Hope.Join us in His mission to…
After a time of severe testing that included losing a job, physical limitation, moving to a new place, money problems, and little emotional or spiritual support, I realized the one person I could really open my heart to was the Lord. He wasn’t like Job’s friends offering unsolicited advice and faulty theology. He simply wasn’t religious. He wanted me to trust him when I didn’t understand him, and he was going to do what was best for me no matter how I squirmed. I remember sitting on my couch and talking to him as if he were in the chair facing me. I had to smile even though so much had gone wrong, because it finally hit me, “Lord you’re not codependent”. He’s not afraid to say no, confront us with the truth, set boundaries or lose the relationship. He gave us free will. And we can walk away from him anytime we choose like the rich, young ruler in Mark 19:16-22, who decided to keep his wealth and leave. Yeshua didn’t run after him yelling, “Hey, you’re making a really bad choice. Okay, sell half of what you have but follow me”. No, the young man left Yeshua standing on the road looking sadly after him, but not interfering. God is looking for an army of lovers. A classic definition of a codependent relationship is one where one person enables another’s compulsive behavior, immaturity, inconsistency, irresponsible actions and addictions to continue. One of the most serious components of codependency is the inordinate need for approval. Let’s face it. God is not afraid to upset us. We ask why aren’t prayers answered the way we want? Why does God seem so remote at times? Why does he seem to throw a veil over our future? Why does he put us through heartbreaking seasons? God understands these questions. He factors them in to our growth process, and doesn’t judge us, but that doesn’t stop him for doing what’s best for us despite the anguish it may cause. He knows the deep programming we’ve all received at some level that generates the lies we believe about ourselves and others, the wounds that motivate us under the surface. Therefore, God often puts us in circumstances that are like receiving a live vaccine against our particular weakness in order to inoculate against further damage and ultimately restore us. What the enemy means for evil to reinforce sorrow, God turns for good, if we let him. Think of Joseph in the pit, Daniel in the den, Yeshua sleeping in the boat while the disciples are traumatized by the storm at sea. They only understood later the power of faith, God’s control over creation, his ability to get them to the other side, and how to confront crisis with calm. How else could they learn? By the way God doesn’t want you in a co-dependent relationship either. So here are some of the signs: an inability to say ‘no’ when that’s needed, wanting to please the other at the expense of your own integrity, feeling responsible for the other people’s emotions and reactions, inability to set appropriate boundaries, a tendency to be controlling through excessive caretaking or people pleasing, and putting others on the throne instead of God. The Lord models freedom for us. The best ‘treatment plan’ for co-dependency is found in the Serenity Prayer. God, grant me the serenity to accept the thingsthat I cannot change.Courage to change the things I canand the Wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time,Enjoying one moment at a time,Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,Taking, as He did,This sinful world as it is,Not as I would have it,Trusting that He will make all things right,If I surrender to His will,So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,And supremely happy with You forever in the next.Amen. Partner with usWe welcome your partnering with us at Anchor of Hope.Join us in His mission to mend the broken-hearted in Israel. Donate via Secure Give PayPal
Life comes at you hard. Everyone struggles at some point with heartache, disappointment, broken relationships, grief, betrayals, painful transitions, and trauma. Sometimes we need another person with whom we can unburden our hearts, and who knows how to listen. The Anchor of Hope Biblical Counseling course was first offered in 2013 as part of the newly opened counseling center to meet this great need. Since then we have graduated nearly 70 students from Acre to Beersheva and many cities in between. This training aims to provide additional resources for the local Body by creating a safety net of qualified counselors in our congregations . We embrace the Isaiah 61 mission of Yeshua to mend the broken-hearted through the grace of God and power of the Holy Spirit. Biblically based counseling applies scriptural principals to everyday life. For example, James 1:19 tells us …” everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger”. Great, but how do we do this? Students learn to reflect back what the speaker is saying, clarify words, and listen for deeper meaning and, thus mirror the listening Father. Listening with the aim of understanding builds communion and trust, and then enables the counselor to establish a bond that makes truth telling easier. “The intentions of a man’s heart are deep waters, but a person of understanding draws them out”. (Proverbs 20:5) This 30-week course covers the areas in which most people struggle. Therefore, we have depth teaching on grief and bereavement, healthy boundaries, addiction recovery, family and couple counseling, crisis intervention, effective communication, conflict resolution, parenting teens, coping with physical illness, anger management, Messiah-centered identity, forgiveness, stress management and much more. Small group exercises create a warm and confidential environment. This year’s course begins on October 28 through June 15, 2020. The training is in three modules of 10-weeks each. Each module costs 590 shekels and includes materials and a complete book of all the lessons. The course is in English, but materials are available in Hebrew. This training is designed for those who see their long term future in the land. For more information, please email [email protected] or view our website: www.anchorofhope.org.il. Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Messiah. (Galatians 6:2) Partner with us We welcome your partnering with us at Anchor of Hope.Join us in His mission to mend the broken-hearted in Israel" Donate via Secure Give PayPal